Confidence & self love

The value of confidence and self love..

First of all, you have to learn to love yourself before you can truly love anyone else. It all starts with you. You might think you know love, and you might, but it all depends on how much you love yourself. Cause in the end, the outer world is just a reflection of your inner riches. Which means your self love will be reflected back to you through other people and experiences. You can only feel the love of another person on the same level of your self love. That's why its so important to learn to love yourself first. So then you can feel love on a deeper level as your love for yourself grows. Does this make sense?

I´m here to tell you what I've learned so maybe you'll understand something you did not understand before. The most important key to self confidence and self love, is simply knowing that there is only one of you in the entire world. Be proud of who you are, what you are capable of, and own it with pride. Trust me when I say everything lies within you. You just have to find it. You won't find it anywhere else. Most people spend their time searching for answers in the external world, but the only place you will find true answers, is within yourself. Self confidence and self love needs to be built from within. If you build it on compliments or external things, it will shatter with criticism and situations that are out of your control. 

Let me tell you something that might shift your perspective. You´ve probably heard this before, but we all come to this world alone and we all die alone. There's only one person you can rely on in this life, and it's yourself. So you have to learn to love yourself to the point where everyone else starts to question what they're doing wrong. Cause in the end you're all you got. You have to learn to love yourself to the point where being alone does not feel like being alone. 

You have to start looking at yourself like you're your only friend. Cause the only person who has been there for and with you every second of you life is you. Appreciate yourself. Show some love. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. Cause that's who you need to be to yourself when life gets tough. Start talking to yourself as you would your best friend. Especially when you are going through a tough time. Cause let's be honest, if you were to treat your friends as you treat yourself... you would not have any. 

Start complimenting yourself. Do mirror work to boost your self esteem. Stand in the mirror and tell yourself how much you love and appreciate yourself for being there every second of your life. Tell yourself the stuff you wish other people told you and feel how good it feels. Feel your love for yourself expand, and turn into a confidence bomb. 

Just think about it. You've been there for yourself during all your experiences, and how do you thank yourself? Start thanking yourself, start being kind to yourself and give yourself a break. The world is cruel enough as it is. You should not be one of the reasons why life is tough. You should be one of the reasons why life is worth fighting for. Your love for yourself should be motivating enough to keep you going though all the dirt life throughs at you. Believe in yourself, let it shine and inspire people to do the same!

 As you learn to love yourself, you also learn to detach from the things you don't love. Confidence is a result of self love. Your goal will be to become so confident in who you are, that no one's opinion, rejection or behavior can trigger a reaction in you. You gain confidence every time you overcome a fear of something. Stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something that scares you, will give you confidence in return as a reward for doing something you did not want to do in the first place. On the other side of fear is often something beautiful. 

Just remember, confidence is not about showing of, speaking the loudest or expecting attention from other people. It´s simply knowing your worth and being appreciative of your own qualities. It´s all about accepting yourself as you are because you know that you are one of a kind. Have in mind that every time you do something you said you wouldn't do, and every time you don't do something you said you would do, you are disrespecting yourself and your values, which can drive you away from your self love and confidence. 

Your only competition is you. You are your own worst enemy that you have to find a way to defeat with love. In the meanwhile, act like the world is yours, walk like you're the boss, talk like you got everyone's attention and love yourself as its all you got. Cause it really is all you got.

7 tips on how to appear more confident:

1. Fix your posture (shoulders back, chin up and relax your body)
2. Stop looking down when talking, only to the sides
3. Eye contact
4. Always keep your head high
5. Don´t interrupt while other people are talking, keep your mind quiet and listen
6. Talk slow and be firm with your words
7. Control your emotions and react out of maturity

Believe in yourself, especially when you are speaking to other people. Believe in what you are talking about. Last but not least, believe that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to, because you are! You just have to unlock the part of you that believes it to be true.